My oldest son is relentless. I first noticed this quality when he was around 4 years old. While I worked out at our local gym, my two boys played in the gym childcare. I was horrified when I realized that another boy and his older sister were being mean to my oldest. I told my son to stop playing with the children, that they weren’t nice. His reply, “I can make them be nice.” I was flabbergasted. No matter how hard I tried to explain to my son that these were not suitable playmates, he argued back that they could be. I didn’t know what to do. Fortunately, the opportunity presented itself for me to have a little heart to heart with the children. After the talk, the teasing stopped and all the children were great friends.
Now, my son is a teenager and he is still drawn to kids who aren’t always nice to him. He always looks for the best in these children, even though they don’t see the best in him. I talk to him about choosing good friends and he still insists that he can help others to be nice. He is relentless. I am quick to blame his relentlessness on his Autism. He has trouble with social cues. He is socially awkward. He is perseverating. Yet, today I realized his relentlessness is something I need to model. I need to take more social cues from him.
As I read today in my Bible I saw someone else who was relentless. In John 13, we read about Jesus washing the feet of the disciples. He washed the feet of Judas, who would betray him. He washed the feet of Peter, who would deny him. He washed the disciples’ dirty feet, knowing they would use those feet to run from him in his time of need. Jesus knew what it was to be mocked and alone. If I were there I probably would have told Jesus he had chosen the wrong group of friends. However, Jesus saw the potential in his rag tag group of friends. He knew that Judas’ actions would be used for his glory. He saw the passion and leadership qualities in Peter when even Peter didn’t. He saw that the feet that ran from him would be the feet that would one day die for him. Jesus was relentless. Jesus is still relentless. He has never given up on me. I need to stop giving up on others. God changed me and is still changing me. He can definitely change the hearts of others. After all, he is relentless, just like someone else I know.