One of my first jobs out of college was as a teacher at a preschool. Even though I enjoyed the job, I stumbled upon a truth that should have dawned on me sooner. I grew up in a house with three other women, yet I had been fairly oblivious to the fact until I found myself in the middle of a web. The truth: women love to meddle, gossip and can be quite catty. As a young woman, I was shocked when the, “she said, she said,” included me. That time I was an innocent party. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case. I have said things I shouldn’t have. I have jumped to conclusions and repeated those conclusions to others. I have listened and spread gossip. Ever since the Garden of Eden it seems that women have been meddling, listening to gossip, and repeating it. If only she had left that piece of fruit alone! However, she listened to a lie, persuaded someone else to believe the lie and caused a lot of trouble. I am not letting Adam off the hook, but I have been drawn to this particular story because of how much I resemble Eve.
So often in life I hurry. My words and actions are not well thought out but rather a whirlwind that emits from the frantic pace of my life. No wonder gossip and irreverent behavior creep in. I forget how I should behave and focus on things that are not mine to focus on. Instead of meddling in others lives, like Eve did, I need to take the time to meddle in my own life. The plan is already laid out. I need to take the time to figure out how it applies to my life.
Paul succinctly spells out a woman’s behavior in Titus 2:3-5(NASB): “Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.”
Our mission is laid out, but it isn’t something that will come easily or naturally. Only with God’s guidance and strength is this behavior attainable. I believe that as women, we need to slow down. We need to choose our thoughts, actions and words carefully. If Eve had taken a moment to slow down and choose her actions a little more carefully, how different might our lives be?